South of the Border
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009 by Teresa D. Ruelas

Swine flu had broken out in Mexico City, some 3,000 miles away from where I and my women’s circle of 12 years were gathered for a long weekend of circle dialogue, ritual, play, life in community.
Outside, families and groups of friends were gathering to enjoy another ordinary Saturday at the beach. Young men warming up for a game of soccer, vendors firing up
their little stoves to heat up delicacies of corn-on-a-cob and churros, children playing in the sand and running into the water while their mothers laid out their little picnic blankets for a nice lunch…or a midday nap.
This was the sleepy town of Rosarito, Mexico - untouched by the flu because tourists and visitors heading towards or back from the more bustling and exciting neighboring cities of Tijuana or Ensenada hardly knew the town was there at all and because the locals led simple lives and didn’t have the resources to be traveling much outside of the town’s perimeters.
Up in our wonderful host’s condominium, we sat in circle. We spoke of the old worlds falling away, the new one emerging….of our lives of joy & sorrow, births & deaths, endings & new beginnings, money & no money, old work and new, each thread of life gifting us with new perspectives and insights, expanding hearts, deepening compassion and love. We acknowledged the gift and the responsibility that come with “privilege”. We followed the news of the breakout of the flu virus through the internet and anxiety, worry and fear began to arise, tempting a quick exodus out of Mexico. Instead, we called to gather in circle. Light the candle as a central flame. Listen within, speak the voices out loud, reflect and listen again.

Together, we inquired about what its presence meant to us, how it would impact our time together, what underlying issues and dilemmas it would raise for us — about our lives, about our worlds, about their worlds, about our shared world. We talked and sat in silence, danced and played, sang and prayed for all. We enjoyed the long walks along the water’s edge, the Friday night karaoke in a small nearby hotel and the enchiladas, tacos and margaritas and were in bed by 11:00 pm.
Right here in the sleepy town of Rosarito, 3,000 miles from Mexico City and some 20 miles south of the border to the US and San Diego.
Yesterday, my girlfriend and I drove across the border back up to San Diego. After an hour’s wait to get to the border inspector’s booth we were asked to drive to the second inspection site to wait for another 20 minutes before they let us through. The hold up? We were taking 2 garbage bags of empty and rinsed out cartons and plastic containers and bottles back to the US to recycle. They had to make sure we weren’t carrying anything else in them.
A slice of Life…south and north of the border…












Last month, painter,
clarifying and articulating his life work in the world, Philip said to me: “Do you know the Buddhist concept of Dhana?” (No, I said.) “To me, it is a concept that lives in the process of teaching the ideas of Buddhism in which the teacher does not charge. After a teaching, though, the student often feels the experience of deep gratitude and an inclination to generosity. There is not a charge sought, but a response is given in gratitude. I feel this gratitude. A Dhana is warranted here.”
A word that caught my fancy recently was one we hear far too often these days: overwhelmed. Everywhere I turned, I hear the word in conversation, experience it in everyone’s attitudes, and witness the result on people’s faces.
“I know God will never give me more than I can handle, I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.”